This is just a short one, but it has been on my mind for quite some time, so I am sharing it here.
I am not going to go into detail, but there have been times where we have been told certain things about what Ren will and will not be able to do…or be. If there is one thing that makes me upset, it is when people put limits on our child. I think the problem is that people think that we do not have a realistic view of Ren and her abilities. The thing is: we do. We are VERY aware of her weaknesses, we realize how delayed she is in areas, and we don’t need people reminding us of this. HOWEVER, we also know that if we limit our expectations, our hope, of what she can do in the future, then we are limiting HER potential. Why put limits on what has no limits? Who are we to limit her? Who are we to limit GOD? I remember hearing about a study where parents who had a child with spina bifida, no matter their “level” of the disability, were told either positive or negative futures about their child. Those who were told negatives, many of those children did not thrive. Those who were told positives, they thrived. If people BELIEVE that the child can thrive, can progress, can achieve, can succeed, then there is more of a chance this will happen. Though WE believe this, no matter what anyone tells us, we also expect OTHERS to believe this about our child too, if they are to be involved in her life. Otherwise, she WILL be limited.
Here are some No Limits memories: